After years of struggling with your
weight and obsessing about food, you have decided to give Overeaters
Anonymous a try. You find an OA meeting in your area by checking
OA's online meeting
locator or by calling or e-mailing the World
Service Office (WSO). You've called the contact person to
confirm the day, time and location of the meeting to make sure
the information hasn't changed.
When you arrive at the meeting,
you will find men and women who
share a common maladycompulsive eatingand have found
a common solution: the Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous. You will see anywhere
from three to 30 people at the meeting. An average meeting has
about 10. You will be warmly welcomed.
The meeting usually opens with the Serenity
Prayer, and you may hear a reading called "Our Invitation
to You," which describes the disease of compulsive overeating
and the Twelve-Step solution. Meeting formats may vary, but
all OA groups are the same in that they seek recovery on three
levelsphysical, emotional and spiritualthrough
the Twelve Steps, and the only requirement for membership is
a desire to stop eating compulsively.
You may hear a speaker open the meeting
and speak for 10 to 15 minutes about what life was like before
OA, what happened, and what he or she is like now; or someone
might read from OA or AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) literature. Other
members will share their experience, strength and hope. You will
have an opportunity to introduce yourself as a newcomer, if you
like. You will find that you are not alone, that there is a way
out of your desperation. Because anonymity is
a critical principle of the OA program, you are assured that
what you share will be held in confidence. This provides the
safety you need to share your experiences honestly.
You may recognize your own story when
you listen to others share. Listening will help you find others
who have what you want, whether it be weight loss, clarity, joy
or recovery from the obsession. You may want to ask someone to
be your sponsor.
A sponsor will help you work the Steps of the program to achieve
the recovery you seek.
When members share, you may hear them
refer to a Higher Power or to God. OA is not a religious program
and does not subscribe to any specific religious ideology. It
is a program that practices spiritual principles, and members
individually approach these principles with a Higher Power of
their understanding.
A list may be passed around for all to
sign their names and phone numbers, so people can offer each
other support between meetings. Someone from the meeting you
attend may call you to answer any questions you may have about
the program, and you will also have an opportunity to get phone
numbers yourself to reach out for help. The telephone is
an important tool in OA for getting and giving support and reminding
you that you are not alone.
Meetings usually last between one and
two hours, and they often include a break. During the break,
feel free to ask questions and pick up some OA literature to
help you learn about the program. By asking for help, you are
taking an important step toward recovery.
Because OA is self-supporting through
member contributions, a basket will be passed for donations.
You will notice that some members volunteer
to help keep the meeting going, such as the group secretary,
the treasurer and greeters. Members find that doing service in
OA helps keep them from eating compulsively. Service is important
to their recovery and allows them to give back to the Fellowship
that has saved their lives. Service
opportunities exist in all levels of the Fellowship, from
making coffee and setting up chairs at a meeting to being on
the Board of Trustees.
The meeting usually closes with a reading
like the OA Promise, "I
Put My Hand in Yours". If you find that the meeting you attended
does not feel right, try a different group at another time and
location. It is a good idea to attend at least six meetings before
deciding on a meeting that is right for you.
What you WON'T find at OA meetings are
weigh-ins, packaged meals, dues, fees, "shoulds," "musts" or
judgment.
What you WILL find at meetings is:
- Acceptance of you - as you are now,
as you were, as you will be.
- Understanding of the problems you now
face - problems almost certainly shared by others in the group.
- Communication that comes as the natural
result of our mutual understanding and acceptance.
- Recovery from your illness.
- Power to enter a new way of life through
the acceptance and understanding of yourself, the practice
of the Twelve-Step recovery program, the belief in a power
greater than yourself, and the support and companionship of
the group.
If you decide that you are one of us,
we welcome you with open arms. Whatever your circumstances, we
offer you the gift of acceptance. You are not alone anymore.
Welcome to Overeaters Anonymous. Welcome home! |